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Thursday, November 27, 2014

Travelling Again




I'm on the road and in the air today, heading to Long Island, New York to visit my daughter and  her family.   I'm looking forward to seeing all of them today.  

Oh yes, today is the day.  

So far, my flights are still on time and going.

Send me off with wishes for good weather, or at least good enough to be able to fly.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

The Mother of Us All

 
 
I'm back, was away for a time because my Mum's been ill.  What was diagnosed as flu, morphed into perforated bowel and emergency surgery, late Saturday.  She's still in Intensive Care but should be allowed to move to the surgery recovery floor soon.

When a parent is ill, family dynamics launch into intense versions of themselves.  As in all families, this is good and bad.  Anxieties get out of control.  Everyone scrambles to be helpful in whatever ways he or she is able.

We are a large family, wide-spread across generations and geography.  Mum is a mother of five, grandmother of seven, great-grandmother of eleven, plus all the in-laws and ex's. 

She is "The Mother of Us All."  And in crisis, we draw near, holding Mum in love and prayers, journeying with her toward her healing.

The healing may take awhile, so I may not be here as much as usual.  For now, it is more important to draw near and to accompany Mum.

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Harvey Bank Heritage Shipyard Park, New Brunswick

 
 
With relatives visiting from England, we toured the area around Harvey Bank, Albert County, New Brunswick


The Anderson Hollow Lighthouse (EST. 1889) with its wooden salt-shaker tower is an historic landmark.  Originally located on the Waterside Wharf, it has been re-located several times.  Currently, it sits at Shipyard Park, Harvey Bank.


 

Shipyard Park was built in 2006 as a monument to this area's ship building past from the 19th century.  The "Revolving Light" is a nearly full scale replica. (Click on the ship's name to read an informative article about its history, written by well-known author Deborah Carr.) 

In photos, you see Gary, his brother Ron and sister-in-law Margaret.  For information on how the replica was created, click on this link to Stone Metalworks.

 
 

We were fortunate to have had perfect autumn weather for our jaunt out to the wetlands in Shepody, and then around to the wind-blown look-off at Cape Enrage



We hope our relatives enjoyed the area, as much as we always do.  Perhaps, it will bring Ron and Margaret back again.

Words in colour will take you to another website with additional information, if you click on them.

Friday, October 18, 2013

For Melissa

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
For Melissa, because you always miss being home in autumn, here are coloured leaves just for you.  Love, Mum

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Happy Thanksgiving 2013

 
 
As I write, the fragrance of baking apple pies fills our house; we are preparing for Thanksgiving dinner with family tomorrow afternoon.  Well, with some of the family.  Two dozen will be here and fourteen cannot come or have celebrations in other homes; homes like ours, filled with the smells of turkey, ham and the vegetables of autumn.



Today, I am grateful for family.  And grateful to be well enough to host a family dinner again, with lots of help from Gary, Kyla and Mark.  To family who are coming to be with us, we'll be so glad to see you.  To family who can't join us, you will be missed.  All of us send love to wrap you in a warm hug and the message that you are part of us and we will always be here for you.

We are family.  Happy Thanksgiving to you.

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Rabbit and Fox

 
 
When my sister and brother-in-law rented a cottage at Darnley, Prince Edward Island earlier this month, they had visitors.  They shared these photos of the wildlife near their cottage.  The fox and the rabbit were not around at the same time.  Perhaps, a good thing.

 
 
 
The fox was on the deck and they took the photo through the window, hence the black bar from the window down through the photo.  Maybe the fox was used to finding food leftovers from other renters; he/she wasn't shy around people.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Wordless Wednesday Darnley PEI

 
 
 
 
 
Wordless Wednesday
 
Three sunsets from Darnley,
Prince Edward Island

Monday, September 16, 2013

Beach Photos Darnley PEI

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
My sister and her husband vacationed in Darnley PEI,
and sent these photos of views from their cottage windows. 
We weren't there but feel like we wanted to be
after seeing the pictures.

Monday, July 22, 2013

Grandchildren Visit

 
 
Our two oldest grandchildren came to visit on Sunday.  They are so grown up now, though still in their teens.  My mother came over to spend the day with us.  It was a wonderful treat to share the summer time with all of them.


Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Hurricane Sandy 2012


 
 

Hurricane Sandy 2012


Late last October the winds came up, way up; blew in at one hundred and ten mph.

A hard storm curled its way along the coast, bellowed its tantrum into your island,

ripping trees, pitching them into houses, crushing cars.  The tide surged in

and in, until the sea sucked the bones of the land and spit out death.  Then, the waves

tried to bury what they’d done with sand and debris and seaweed, tried to cover the windows.

 

And after, days into weeks with your wife and children huddled near the fireplace,

eating fridge leftovers, then mining the canned goods, waiting for the grid to crank up

with civilisation again.   When cold had crept into every last corner, the baby got sick. 

It didn’t feel like camping anymore with the candles burned and clothes covered with vomit

and water getting scarce, yet the damage went on.   “Never seen anything like it,” you said. 

 

Seven months and your chainsaw continues to chew the deadfall into fire wood, now drying

in tidy rows in your yard.  Chunked lengths of black oak lie where the crane dropped them

to your flagstones; they await the teeth of the portable mill.  For you are determined

not to waste these trees fallen after two hundred years of touching the sky; you choose

to honor and remember them.  You want to saw them, plane them, build furniture;

you want to build tables with tales of the wind to tell.

 

The words and photo are copyright © Carol Steel.  This story of Hurricane Sandy is a compilation of stories and is not meant to depict any one family.


Thursday, February 7, 2013

A Good Question

 

A Good Question

Enduring an encounter with serious illness and the possibility of death tested all my significant relationships.

Who was there for me through the months of illness?  Who suffered with me?  Who was really affected by the possibility that I might not return to health?

To whom did I really matter?

Answers were not easy to find, for people had different ways of showing they cared.

I acknowledged how difficult it was for friends and family.  I appreciated that they did what they could.  There were many who backed off and I was hurt and disappointed.  Some relationships I valued didn’t turn out to be the way I thought they were.  It wasn’t that people did not care; it was more likely they just didn’t know what to do or say. 

People helped and supported the best they could; sometimes they didn’t know how to do this.  Perhaps they thought ignoring what happened and trying to move on was best for everyone.

My own expectations were sources of disappointment.  When I felt tired, vulnerable and scared, the withdrawal of others from me did not help me.  It was as though I had contracted a shameful, contagious disease.  It hurt and yet I understood.

Thankfully, there were many who stayed in contact through cards, notes, emails and phone calls, dropped off meals, sent small gifts or flowers, made short but loving visits, listened and found ways to show that I mattered to them.

For them I was grateful.

Significant relationships were not all constant.  Many changed.

To whom did I really matter?

A good question.  A greater lesson. 

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Grandsons



Visitors.  We've had visitors.  Two of our daughters came to see us, accompanied by portions of their own families.

Over the weekend, we spent time with our youngest grandson (7.5 months) and our oldest grandson (14.75 years).  We're fortunate to have eleven grandchildren, six boys and five girls.  With their families' busy lives, we don't see any of our grandchildren as much as we would like, so this visit was a special treat for us.

It fascinates me to see the youngest and the oldest grandsons together.  Despite their age difference, they have physical and personality traits in common.  They share blue eyes, fair hair and skin, large heads and strong hands, healthy appetites and tons of physical energy. 

Already evident in the youngest is a propensity for studying the face of the person talking to him, an attentive sensitivity to the environment around him, an easy and frequent smile, and a gentle presence; all of these are characteristics shared with his older cousin.

It is easy to note their differences but it is more fascinating to see their similarities.  They are kin; they are family.  And it was such delight to see each grandson, to enjoy a visit with some of our family.

Thank you.  It was thoughtful and generous of you to come. 

And again, thank you.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Dessert Decadence

 
 
 
 
 
Wordless Wednesday.  Photos from Sunday supper, copyright Carol Steel.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Sunday Supper


 
 
 
We were invited out for Sunday supper.  What a wonderful treat it was!  The appetizer was created from cooked and pureed fennel, with Pernod and creme fraiche added to lobster.  The dish was garnished with lobster oil and fresh tarragon with fennel fronds.



 
 
 
Because I am allergic to shell fish, my appetizer followed the same recipe but had salmon and was garnished with tarragon oil.  It was delicious, mouth watering, delicate and decadent.
And then...

 
 

 
 
 
the main dish was a dry brined organic chicken cooked on a bed of root vegetables, subsequently used for the gravy base.  The gravy was extraordinary and will require its own separate post to describe.  We had homemade pesto squash gratin, local potatoes enhanced with roasted garlic brown butter and parmesan, dressing with sage and onion, sausage and miche campagne.  There were carrots and peas and edible flowers.  So beautiful, so utterly delicious.
 
But wait....then we had molten chocolate lava cakes with homemade caramel sauce, candied pecans and whipped cream, accompanied by chilled Warre's Optima 10 port.
 
It was a luxurious evening spent with family who are superb cooks.  Thank you Kyla and Mark.  We enjoyed ourselves so much, we may never need to eat again.
 
My computer is being finicky and will not download the photo of the molten chocolate lava cakes.  They were so good and so pretty, but sorry, no pictures.  Photos and words are copyright Carol Steel.
 
 
 
 
 
 


Thursday, September 20, 2012

Family Visit



We’ve had children and grandchildren around, off and on for the past two weeks.  More off than on and less on than we’d like, but that’s the way it is when family comes home to visit.  They have to spread themselves around, visit all the members of the family.
And our family is a combination, a blended family, so that means even more visiting for them.
They’re heading back to Alberta soon and though they won’t fly out until Saturday, I miss them already. 
We had fun during the two days and couple of evenings they were here with us.  Yes, there were ice cream slops and sticky finger prints when they left.  But that’s all part of having lively children filling the house with dinosaurs roaring and cars running, creating chalk figures in the driveway, cutting craft snowflakes, drawing pictures and giving warm hugs.  The laughter and giggles and hugs were the best parts. 
Yes, the hugs and the smiles and the laughter, I’ll miss those, miss them lots.
There are toys to return to their boxes and a spill or two to wipe up, but that doesn’t matter.  What matters is that they came all the way across Canada to visit. 
What matters is…we enjoyed them so.

Photo and words are copyright © Carol Steel.

Friday, August 3, 2012

Happy Anniversary



Happy Anniversary to Pat and Joycelyn
Gary’s gone.
Gary’s gone on a bike trip to Weymouth, Nova Scotia to visit his brother.  He needed to go.  Sometimes he needs to get away from every worry and care and just ride.
His brother and sister-in-law are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary
on August 4, 2012.  Gary’s gone to be with them and to help them celebrate, to catch up with relatives he seldom sees. 

He was so excited last night; he didn’t think he’d be able to sleep.   And he couldn’t have slept very long as he was up before 6 a.m. and on the road shortly after that.
He’s just phoned at 5 to say that he has arrived safe and sound in Weymouth, at Pat’s and Jocelyn’s.  He’s been there since 4.
So, Gary... have a good time with your family over the next few days.   
Happy Anniversary to you, Pat and Jocelyn. 
Let the good times roll.


Photos are mine.

Family



Family

Family,
this connection of flesh and blood
is one long muscle of lineage and kin.
What happens when a shock
strikes,
rips like sciatic lightning,
cuts sudden and deep?

No one muscle moves
alone...
in any movement.

Does muscle tear,
form scars,
enlarge,
emerge stronger?

Do hamstrings tighten
to maintain center,
to stand
upright?

Will the muscle belly
pull in
and bind back upon itself,
forever changed
unable to recoil, to rest?

... remain open,
gashed and bloody?

Will it leave the tribe
limping?

Blood ties
do not always
mean smooth flow,
cannot always
connect
family.

Sometimes family
does not mean
family.


This poem is written for We Write Poems poetry prompt #117, "what words mean" on August 2, 2012, at http://wewritepoems.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/prompt-117-its-post-your-poems-day/

The prompt asks:  Write a poem that begins and ends with a one word line, that word being the same at both beginning and ending. Yet allow the body of the poem to create that shift in meaning for that one word.


Sunday, July 29, 2012

Family Visits in Summer


Family Visits in Summer


Last night, I slept for 13 hours.  Yes, I was that tired.  Exhausted but content.  Since Monday we have entertained company, well not really company...I should say family.  Each day we've had 6-8 adults and 2-4 children at our house; family who've joined us for a summertime visit.



We visited with each other, caught up on family news and stories, played cards or paper crafts with the children, had many barbecues, late night conversations under the stars, laughed and sang, enjoyed the summer days and evenings.



It felt a bit like a camp ground here with a Volkswagen camper van in the driveway and a 40 foot RV at the curb.  At bedtime, everyone went off to their own cozy places to rest.



During the day, we played in the pool or caravaned to The Rocks to sight-see and picnic or sat around talking, eating, and drinking Caesars...or doing whatever anyone felt like doing.  We enjoyed each other with no agenda.



Our time together was full of laughter and love.  Though there were many meals to prepare and dishes to clean, laundry to wash and supplies to purchase, there were many hands to help.  It was worth it all to see family, to spend long summer days together and to enjoy each other.





When everyone left, the house had a few extra finger prints and spills to clean, but was so quiet...too quiet.  It was fun to have family come and spend time with us and we are missing them so much already.

Yes, I slept for 13 hours last night.  I am catching up on rest and feeling almost ready for the next batch of family visitors, arriving on Saturday.

Monday, July 23, 2012

My House


My House

My house is going to be busy this week.  We are hosting relatives and enjoying their company.  I won't be posting again until the end of the week.

I hope you're enjoying time with someone you love, too.

Carol